Unveiling the Grim Realities of Domestic Abuse: A Global Call for Action

By Nancy Oye Tanihu

In a haunting trend that refuses to wane, the  echoes of women enduring unspeakable abuse within the confines of their own homes continue to reverberate across the globe. The insidious reach of this issue extends beyond borders and economic backgrounds, leaving many vulnerable to the horrors of domestic violence.

In Ghana, media reports have established that at least 25 women were murdered by abusive partners between January and August 2021. From 2021 to 2023, over 100 women have been murdered by their male partners. From January this year to date, a woman dies at least every month at the hands of a man.

Behind these numbers and statistics lie real lives, real stories, and real tragedies.

Take, for instance, the case of Eunice, a 25-year-old whose life was tragically cut short in the Greater Accra Region. Eunice’s photo, once brimming with vitality, now stands as a stark reminder of the countless women who have fallen victim to the wrath of their partners. Reports suggest that she was ruthlessly attacked by her husband during a heated confrontation, ultimately succumbing to the injuries inflicted by someone she once trusted.

Nana Ama, a promising student at Cape Coast Technical University, met a similarly grim fate at the hands of her boyfriend. Her lifeless body was discovered in Ola Estate in Cape Coast, her innocence marred by a heinous crime that shook the community to its core. Her boyfriend was later held accountable for the vicious act, but the damage had already been done.

Linda, a 31-year-old dedicated teacher, faced a fate no less sinister. Her aspirations and dreams were shattered by the continuous abuse and threats she endured from her husband. Despite her resilience, the violence eventually took its toll, leaving her lifeless and a community in mourning.

These heart-wrenching stories merely scratch the surface of a deeply entrenched problem that manifests in various forms – physical, emotional, economic, and psychological – leaving scars that may never fully heal.

The major causes of spousal abuse include a sense of entitlement on the part of abusive men, a belief they should have power and control over their partner, a belief that they can get away with it, learned experience that being abusive gets them what they want, belief that their lives should take priority over the woman’s, and some times alcohol and drug abuse.

The red flags that they usually exhibit include showing a lack of respect for their partners, displaying controlling behaviors, isolating their partners, showing irrational jealousy and insecurity, verbal or emotional abuse, and of course, physical violence.

What is the advice for young girls? Psychologists say you must know yourself, always think safety first, try healthy conflict resolution, seek guidance and self care, learn from mistakes and think independence.

Unfortunately, despite education and caution, the haunting trend of abuse refuses to wane

Amidst the despair however, there is hope. Support networks and organizations worldwide are tirelessly working to provide assistance to those ensnared in abusive relationships. In Ghana, the Domestic Violence and Victims Support Unit (DOVVSU) of the Ghana Police Service stands as a beacon of hope for those in need. Their helpline (055-100-0900) serves as a vital lifeline for those seeking refuge and a way out of the darkness.

It’s imperative that we, as a society, amplify our efforts to ensure that victims are not only protected but empowered to reclaim their lives and dignity.

While the journey towards eradicating domestic abuse remains long and arduous, these stories serve as a poignant reminder of the urgency to break the silence and provide unwavering support to those in need. Let us come together to build a world where every individual can live without fear and violence, where dignity is not merely a word but an inviolable right. Say no to abuse. Say no to silence.

In the words of Eleanor Roosevelt, “One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized, and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.” Let us ensure that no one ever has to surrender their dignity at the hands of another.